Actions Speak Louder than words

Hey guys, it's been forever since I posted, I know, I know... But I'm  back and I promise to be regular.
So I  am kicking of my "come back" with a new segment I'm tagging "Onyee's diary", I've always wanted to talk /share my opinions on general/everyday issues, that we see happening on the Internet or in real life & what better place to write out my thoughts than here on my blog, I have limitless writing space. So here we are!! y'all can read as well, share your opinions &  your thoughts, let's just flow.


So!!!  today's blog post was inspired by a comment I saw on instagram. The main post was about a woman who experienced domestic violence in her marriage, I read the story and one of the things that struck out for me was that, everytime  she & hubby had an altercation that would lead to him hitting her, he would come back apologize and always plead with her saying  "he loves her &  it won't happen again",and she was like what kind of love is this that has extreme physical violence.
Eventually, she left that marriage.We thank God.


Then I saw a comment under the post where a lady said (in summary) never be with someone that only verbalizes their affections towards you but never show it and then this old saying came to me; "action speaks louder than words". Ladies &  gentlemen this is what my blog post today is about, this particular comment.

Then it got me thinking, why do people stay in relationships like this and ultimately most of them suffer from emotional & physical abuse. Is it because, growing up some of them never heard those words from their parents /guardians &  when someone says it to them later on in life it sounds like "gold" and it just goes to their head OR is it because they keep thinking what would people say  if they break up or they are scared of starting all over again and then where would they find someone to even be close to & be intimate with, to begin with it.

So many reasons and I know people are going through & it's easier said than done to just exit that relationship or friendship even, but hear me now, You and I, we deserve a love that transcends  just mere words. Don't be in a relationship with someone who never shows how they feel about you or that they care about you. your welfare, or your state of being.

They  don't call or text you and naturally you would call & text to find out how they are, but you start noticing a pattern where you are the only one initiating the conversations, you are the one who wants to see them, who misses them and it's almost like they don't care, you can feel it deep down that something is off, when you complain about it they say "they're busy" or that they are going through stuff and they need some alone time.

Honey, LISTEN!! We are in this relationship together!! you should be able to talk to your partner about what's going on in your life,if you had a bad day, someone pissed you off  or issues in your life. I mean, why are we in a relationship  then?? and I unfortunately see this all the time, and when you complain they say "you're nagging  and that you complain too much"

These are the signs, don't shove it off because he/she said "I love you"...
Talk about it. get to the root of the problem &  if you  still don't like their actions after y'all talked.
I suggest you walk away  boo.
You'll find someone who will "Show" you that they love & care  for you.
Don't lose hope, theirs so much love out there for all of us.

Never settle for relationships like this. You won't like the outcome.
First of all, you give off the idea that you're cool with being treated like that.
In the end you give &  give, and you are emotionally drained, you are tired and you would have wasted your time & energy loving someone  who never truly loved you back.

YOU deserve a LOVE that is true at it's very CORE